by Jeffrey Leiken, M.A.
Each generation tends to look at the next generation and claim things
aren’t as they used to be. There was a time in the 1970s and 80s
when summer job opportunities for teens were so limited that many camps
could rely on their former campers wanting to work as counselors all
throughout their college years — and being willing to work for
less money than new hires. There was a time also when the need for counselors
to be gifted with counseling and communication skills was less important
than their knowing the ins and outs of the rituals and routines of camp.
Now, it seems it is hard to find a teenager or young adult who has the
interest or skill in either.
Today, there is a higher expectation placed on the child care industry
as a whole. Insurance and liability demands accompany parental expectations
for quality care. There is also the issue that more parents are raising
their children in a more entitled, permissive way. Thus camps are dealing
with “high maintenance” parents who value their child having “fun” more
than they value their child learning valuable life lessons. Indeed, there
is a whole aspect of the camp industry that focuses on programs for teens
so that they can continue to have fun, travel in comfort, stay in camp
in luxury, be free to socialize and function in their usual teenage ways — without
having to give up much, if any, of the innocence of childhood and the
comforts of home. Clearly, these camps have an appeal to certain parents.
The reality that must be confronted, however, is that childhood does
not last forever. Adolescence is not a process that has a predetermined
end date — nor is there a guarantee in this culture that, left
to their own devices, teenagers will learn the values and skills they’ll
need to become responsible adults — or even camp counselors. Camps
that continue to accommodate their teens’ desire to have fun and
socialize — without demanding their intentional commitment to the
process of maturing — will most assuredly be disappointed by these
former campers when they ask them to be counselors.
One respected colleague of mine took a stance at a conference last
year, stating that teenagers should never be left to their own devices
with a group of campers. Sadly, in the case of those camps with low expectations
placed on their teenagers, this statement certainly has validity. For
me, the statement is more about the culture that raised the teenagers — including
the camp — than it is about the teenagers themselves. It is not
the age; it is how they are raised to be at that age. Indeed there are
cultures on earth today where fifteen-year-olds are responsible for leading
and defending whole communities. In our culture, we are often amazed
how fifteen-year-olds cannot even be responsible for taking out the garbage.
Some camps are taking a very different position. They realize that kids
will always rise up or fall down to the expectations held for them. Thus,
they are deciding to become intentional about raising the bar for teenagers — including
teens from backgrounds that have low expectations of their need to assume
responsibility and accountability. Expectations are not limited by socio-economic
status — low expectations are often just as prevalent in what we
call high-risk backgrounds as they are in extremely privileged backgrounds.
Some camps who have never had counselor-in-training programs are now
adding them. Others who have had these programs are raising their level
of expectations for those who participate in them.
Camp Champions, An Innovative Program
One camp on the cutting edge of this process is Camp Champions in Marble
Falls, Texas. Camp Champions offered an opportunity for teenage boys
to participate in an innovative program designed to promote responsibility
and maturity. The memorable weekend-long program was held at another
camp in Texas in early September, taking advantage of hundreds of acres
of forests and hills that offered an ideal setting for such an adventure.
Steve Baskin, camp owner, and Paul Cope, camp director, realized that
many boys are influenced by their peers to be critical of one another,
sarcastic, and irresponsible. They realized, as well, that in many cases
there are very few strong adult male role models for teenage boys — role
models who teach them otherwise. Baskin and Cope acknowledged how the
age-old responsibility men had always assumed to transition boys into
adulthood through an initiatory rite of passage has been lost in our
culture over the past hundred years. Additionally, they knew that the
leverage they held through their camp relationship with the boys and
their families gave them an opportunity to address all these issues in
a unique and powerful way.
Their idea was outside the norm of the camp experience and camp role.
It required working with parents in a more involved way. It demanded
a program that prioritized a whole set of values that differed from the
camp experience as the participants knew it. They also realized they
were taking a big chance in doing all of this — yet the potential
for success was so great, they were willing to go to the cutting edge.
A detailed invitation letter from Baskin and Cope to parents described
the value of the program in depth. Parents were explicitly informed that
the program would neither be comfortable nor fun — and that it
would in fact be emotionally, mentally, and physically demanding on their
sons. Parents were urged to send their sons and to support the process
by committing to attend a closing ceremony and by incorporating many
of the program suggestions in how to treat their sons differently afterwards.
Parents were advised to make the following changes:
- Stop babying their sons and treat them as young adults.
- Hold them accountable in more exacting ways.
For many of the parents agreeing to these changes was more difficult
than the decision to send their sons to the program! For some, the commitment
included driving five hours each way to attend the closing ceremony.
For others, it meant changing the whole way they’d set up life
at home for themselves and their children.
Parental Endorsement
Despite the rather unusual nature of the program, parents were overwhelmingly
supportive and indeed grateful for the opportunity for their sons to
participate. They reported being overwhelmed at times with the societal
pressure to give their kids things — and the seeming lack of gratitude
their kids possessed. Some acknowledged that despite their best efforts
to raise their children to be respectful and responsible, their kids
were still being influenced by the current teenage culture of entitlement
and lack of gratitude.
Participant Consensus
For the participating boys, a different presentation was made. In a
meeting during the summer, they were presented with a provocative discussion
about what it means to be a man, about the difference between adolescence
and adulthood, and about the difference between living a mediocre life
and one of excellence. They were offered an opportunity to participate
in an experience that would change the way they think about their lives
and themselves and about all that is possible for them in the future.
They were promised that they would walk away with confidence, certainty,
and a new sense of personal truth. They would learn to carry themselves
in a new way that would be recognizable to all those with whom they come
in contact ,and they would no longer be treated as kids, but as young
adults aspiring to responsible mature adulthood.
The Program
As a result of the presentations to the parents and the meetings with
the boys, the program ultimately drew twenty teenage boys between the
ages of fifteen and seventeen — nearly twice as many as were originally
expected — all but one of who were willingly and excitedly participating.
Baskin and Cope organized a group of leaders — ten adult men
who brought varying aspects of expertise, all of whom were committed
to living their lives with impeccable integrity and intent. The leaders
needed to be congruent models of maturity and adulthood, as well as to
have skills in communicating with youth.
Unlike similar programs that became popular in the 1970s and 80s that
challenged men to get in touch with their feelings and cry and pound
pillows, this program is built entirely around positive youth development.
The challenges the boys faced in the program fostered positive self-awareness — arrogance
was replaced with the realization of how their behavior affects others
and introversion was replaced with confidence.
The Journey
From the moment the boys arrived at the site, they were in a process — on
the journey. They were greeted, checked in, and treated as children,
being served milk and cookies. After nearly a half hour, the “party” was
suddenly interrupted as the leaders of the weekend arrived and led the
boys to another building — in silence. The boys were given bland
uniform clothing without brand named logos. Instead of a name on their
white T-shirts, there was a number — a number that would remain
until each “earned” their name back — a number that
was the only distinguishing material feature between them.
A Beginning
The boys were kept up until late at night — participating in a series
of activities that required each to leave their comfort zone, work together,
and be accountable for his choices. It was far beyond the typical ropes course
activities done at camp. The activities were designed to work only when the
boys worked together, or for some, when they were willing to stand alone — whichever
was more challenging. Each process was followed through to completion, regardless
of how long it took. By the time they went to bed the first night they were
tired and completely removed from their normal reality. They had begun to realize
how much they had limited themselves with wrong choices in the past.
A Challenging Day
The following day was spent further challenging their selfish values and the
roles they play socially — making them aware of what is important and
what is not — and how they each have choices for a better approach
to life. They explored the forests — meeting numerous obstacles and “tricksters” along
the way who tried to lead them astray. Slowly, they came to trust something
in themselves more than the “groupthink,” and more than what
would have seemed logical.
Ultimately, the day led to a descent down a hill where they were individually
met by the leaders of the weekend and challenged to stand for themselves
and to find their own inner resolve. The message repeatedly was to recognize
what it is about them personally and what it is about others that can
free them from the constant turmoil of taking things personally that
are not meant to be personal — a limiting behavior that many teens
(and many adults!) often do.
A Final Challenge
One of the final challenges of the weekend was to “speak their truth” and
to share openly with the group many of the things we ordinarily don’t
share. The boys learned that a man’s willingness to be vulnerable can
also be his greatest strength. The participants shared stories about how they
felt when people made fun of them for their idiosyncrasies, of how they lied
about having had certain experiences with girls just so they’d fit in,
and how they’d knowingly given in to peer pressure. Ultimately, they
stood and shared their personal mission statement — a statement for which
each would hold one another accountable. It was a remarkable experience — given
the circumstances and the dynamics of this group before the weekend — that
all the truth shared surpassed what is normally shared at camp.
Continuing Success
There were closing rituals and words shared before the boys were presented
back to their parents in a special ceremony welcoming them as “men.” The
response from the parents was overwhelmingly positive. The feedback from
the initiates continues to pour in months later.
The young men are now part of an e-mail group — they exchange
and share thoughts and feelings on various issues — providing responses
and receiving feedback from their peers and the leaders. The group shares
openly their struggles and ultimately their triumphs as they behave as
responsible young adults. They are learning to communicate honestly with
others. The bluntness with which they hold one another accountable is
astounding — in many ways it transcends the honesty and accountability
to which many “older” adults aspire.
Baskin and Cope do not know how many of these young men will eventually
want to work at camp as counselors. They do know that those who do want
to work at camp will truly demonstrate the necessary values of a camp
counselor — they will be responsible and willing to place the needs
of others first — qualities that are often hard to find in teens
and young adults. Baskin and Cope know the work they did that weekend
will have played a significant role in why these qualities will show
up in these young men.
This program made a direct impact on these young men, helping them
transition from childhood to adolescence into adulthood . . . from dependence
to independence to interdependence . . . from camper to counselor to
leader. They are cultivating leadership in themselves and someday, perhaps,
leadership in others — leadership with compassion — leadership
with skill — leadership with purpose. And perhaps most importantly,
leadership with integrity.
Camp Champions will repeat the program again next year and has already
begun plans to offer a version appropriate for teenage girls — a
program to help young women transition toward independence and adulthood,
as well. They have taken their camp program to the cutting edge — and
are reaping the rewards and benefits in great ways.
Originally published
in the 2004 March/April issue of Camping Magazine. | 
