Right about now you may be having the time of your life, enjoying the freedom of being in the outdoors in a community of good friends; or you may be wondering, “What in the world have I gotten myself into?” Whatever your particular experience at camp so far, I am writing with some thoughts about being more effective with campers and getting greater enjoyment out of your work.
Many counselors, especially those who have never been at camp before, or those who were campers for many years, wonder what all the fuss is during orientation about being a counselor. After all, how difficult can it be to hang out with a bunch of kids during the summer and have fun?
Experienced staff know better. Given the unpredictable moods of campers, the boredom of rainy days, the stress of in-fighting, the challenges of homesickness, and all the other formidable tasks that working with children brings, it is easy to see that, if you take the job seriously, being a camp counselor is hard work. Indeed, being a camp counselor is a craft — no different in many ways from being a good soccer player, cook, musician, or teacher. Sure you can “wing it,” but if you aspire to being more than a mediocre camp counselor — someone who is memorable to your campers — there are some fundamental skills and techniques you must master in order to succeed.
Survival Tip 1
Develop a “look.” In fact, develop two.
You know what I mean — that curt, disapproving glance that says, “Not here, not now, not ever!” It is amazing how universal the “look” is, and how, as soon as I mention it, most counselors know exactly what I am talking about. Although the particular set of facial contortions may vary, the intent is clearly designed to stop you dead in your tracks. Judging from conversations I’ve had with many staff, the impact was usually pretty effective.
If you yourself don’t have a ”look,” set about developing one now. Children are very tuned-in to nonverbal cues, and combining a disapproving “look” with the right words can be very effective. Besides, it will give you a jump on your parenting skills, even if you don’t plan to need them for a few years, yet.
But tip #1 says to develop two looks. This is because you need another look that conveys your approval, not just your disapproval. This can be a gesture and a look — like a smile and a thumbs-up; or a smile and a pat on the back; or whatever comes to you naturally. That gesture and the look that goes with it will become crucial components of your communication with children, who often listen for the tone in our voice and the look on our face and not so much to the words coming from our mouth. This leads to . . . .
Survival Tip 2
Praise and reward almost always trump disapproval and criticism.
Survival Tip 3
You have two voices!
Survival Tip 4
There is always a “double standard” when working with children.
Survival Tip 5
Drop the emotional rope!